Submitted by: Damon Murphy - Brother
Name: Jared Murphy
State: Virginia, 23222
Date of Passing: 09/24/ 2018
Date of Birth: 02/17/1989
Tell Us About Them:
Did you ever meet a man so warm and intriguing that you didn't want to stop talking to him? Then you met my best friend and brother Jared (Gene) Murphy. Jared was a bright light, rugged outdoorsman, talented speaker, authentic feeler, and the most masculine tender spirit I ever encountered- textbook gentle giant. Jared made friends easily with people on the streets and upper management at the fortune 100 company where he worked for years, Jared knew that EVERY person had a valuable story to tell and he wanted to hear it. He believed that we had simply all had different life experiences- different -no one is better than another. A wordsmith, jared would have you laughing so hard you couldn't stand up straight- always quick with an anecdote from his own life experiences, one of his many gifts was his ability to relate to your current emotion/feeling and find the positive in despite its origin. He had original ideas and wanted to share them with the hope that they might resonate and help someone think differently, feel differently, grow stronger, or accomplish more. One night over dinner and discussion he told me he was going to have business cards printed up- Jared R. Murphy, Commentator at large- he added more to my life than little brothers are expected to. Jared had a way of telling you about yourself, maybe expressing his view of you, that made you feel like 'woah, this dude knows me to the core and just psychoanalyzed me in real time for MY benefit'. It was because he had VERY sensitive feelers, when you laughed he felt it in his gut, when you cried his heart ached with you and maybe even more so because 'got it'. Always a quick smile, always the moral compass, always an advocate of mindful consideration. Jared 'Eugene Bexley Fobbins' Murphy, the BRIGHTEST star in my darkest night- you belong among the wildflowers, you belong somewhere close to me, far away from your trouble and worry- you belong somewhere you feel free. I love your spirit- I feel you beside me, your smile- I can see it, your wit- I can hear it, your beard- can I touch? sure-go ahead, forever, ever.
Tell Us About Their Struggles With Addiction:
The battle with heroin for jared was constant. He had the most success with sobriety when he was helping others, it was only when he had spent all of his heart and emotion on others that he used. Jared hated addiction. He tried what made sense to him to try, he added things in when he'd take heroin out of his routine, he'd listen to anyone else who struggled with it searching for a thing that made sense or would work. Eventually the struggle brought him to tears. He understood his addiction and tried to control it.
What Made Them Smile?
When Jared was in nature he felt connected, a sunrise or sunset, a cool breeze, an eight mile hike up a mountain he wanted to take it all in. Mason made jared laugh and yell- our 'big buddddddy', the boy- jared would let mason lick his face until he stopped and sometimes that would be too long for peoples comfort- the thing was that masons drool was kisses to jared and he wanted all of the kissesssssss and lovinsss. If jared could help a person or add something situationally beneficial he smiled from the inside out- helping people was calling and his gift. He was sensitive, patient, and forgiving of everyone but himself. So many people, situations, landscapes, and feelings made jared smile that the list could almost never end, almost.
What Do You Miss the Most About Them?
I selfishly miss his long hugs, strength, and drive. His spirit. His laugh.
If You Had a Chance to Say One More Thing to Your Angel What Would It Be?
He got the action, he got the motion
Oh yeah, the BOY CAN PLAY
Turning all the night time into the day
And after all the violence and double talk
There's just a song in all the trouble and strife
You do the walk, you do the walk of life
You do the walk of life.
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